Negative or distorted beliefs | Positive and rational beliefs |
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Because of my pain or symptoms, I am no longer the person I was. I no longer feel loved and appreciated. | I may have changed somewhat physically, but I am more than just a physical being. I am worthy of love and of being appreciated for all that I am. |
People reject me because they can see I am disabled. | I am not disabled. I have goals and dreams and can accomplish many things. |
I used to be able to do so many things—now I can’t do anything. I am no longer competent or adequate. | I can do a lot more than I thought. Almost everything I used to do, I can still do to some degree. |
I can’t do anything because of my symptoms. | With moderation, I can be actively involved in life. I just need to pace myself and take breaks. |
I have no control over my happiness. The pain or symptoms control me. | I can control my happiness. I can be happy and enjoy life even when I have pain or other symptoms. |
People think I’m faking this. | People sometimes need help understanding medical issues. I can share what I know about chronic pain. |
If my symptoms act up when I’m out with friends, I’ll be embarrassed and ruin things for everyone. | I can help my friends understand. I can take breaks and still enjoy myself when I’m with them. |
Medical science can do so much. Surely there must be a cure for my symptoms. | Even if medical science can’t fix everything, I can choose my response and focus on self-care skills. |
People at work are upset with me. I have restrictions and they think I am not doing my share. | I will do the best job I can. If people don’t understand, that’s their problem—I can’t please everyone. |
From Mayo Clinic Patient Education. Managing your Fibromyalgia (MC2593-100). Rochester, MN: Mayo Clinic, 2017, pp. 7 & 32; used with permission of Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, all rights reserved.